Why is Indian society still obsessed with Kundli matching? Even After a long list of failed marriages
If you have ever watched ‘Lage Raho Munna Bhai’ you must remember the climax of the movie? Abhishek Bachchan against all the odds marries Diya Mirza who was a ‘Manglik’ according to their Family guru. The scene turned out to be a hilarious one where Sanjay Dutt actually makes us realize that these superstitions do nothing to us. Rather, it ruins our progressive mindset.
Now let’s come to reality. Aishwarya Rai had to marry two trees “to ward off the evil influence of Mars” before marrying Abhishek Bachchan as the beautiful lady is a ‘Manglik’. Surprising enough? No right?
Indian society is obsessed with matching a Kundli before marriage so that they can assure a happily-ever-after life. But let’s face the reality; most of the couples are experiencing the worst phase of failed marriages in the society. Even after taking too many precautions before getting married and so many pre-marriage rituals, marriages still fail in India.
And the worst part, divorce is still a taboo in our society. People prefer to burden themselves with loads of an unsuccessful and unhappy married life but they can’t opt for a divorce.
When two people are more than happy with each other especially in case of love marriage, and, to the people who found their perfect soulmates on thetinder, such things shouldn’t be considered which will eventually bring ‘ifs’ and ‘buts’.
As a matter of fact, nobody can deny this harsh truth of our society that love marriages are still not a cake walk for the couples here. Even if they convince their parents to rise above caste and creed, the ‘Kundli matching’ plays the role of villain in the love story.
Let’s not drag the belief on kundli to the matter where you cannot allow marrying two individuals irrespective of how much they care and understand each other just because some Stars are not right.
It’s definitely not harmful to see the kundli as it will also talk about the offspring and the future generation, but the consent of two individuals should be always the first priority. While our society has developed a lot, they still lack this kind of understanding.
Let’s see the main reasons why it is important to match Kundli according to our society:
Your pundits or astrologers match kundlis on the basis various factors such as the location, date and time of birth of you and your potential spouse. The final results are made taking the position of planets, stars or nakshatras into account. More gunas that match means more compatibility. Gunas are matched based on the point system and each point carries different weight, such as:
- Varna, as per Vedic astrology, is matching of the intricacies of castes: Caste! The main issue behind those broken hearts.
- Vasya, which denotes the power of attraction: I have no clue how long does attraction last in a marriage.
- Tara, the calculation of which describes the longevity of the partner: Well if longevity is decided already, why do divorces even exist?
- Yoni describes the nature and characteristics of the person: A person is never the same as you meet them, they always change with time and conditions. So what is even the need of this?
- Graha Maitri, depicts natural friendship between the two: Your stars never decide your friends right? Sometimes you develop the most unlikely friendship ever.
- Gan, helps to understand the mental compatibility between the two: Your stars never decide compatibility with your partner.
- Bhakoot, calculation denotes the influence each has on the other
- Nadi shows the health and happiness of children
All these gunas carry 1 to 8 points, and their sum can go up to 36. If the kundli score is 18 or above then the match is more favorable and ones with a score lesser than 18 are considered to face trials and issues in their wedding.
So, don’t you think that the Indian marriages which happen on the basis of these ‘scores’ are a bit illogical?
When a marriage is destined to last, when two people are meant to be with each other, it is anyway going to happen. And if two people are not meant to be together, they won’t.
Think about this for a while and yes, stop trying reading your horoscopes and matchmaking results from now! They are not going to do any good to you, instead, you will live in the constant fear of being defeated by your fate. By yourself.